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How does a Histrionic person communicate?

These individuals have a verbal communication style that aims to impress the audience, but their narratives are superficial and lack detail. They express their opinions using an eccentric style, but the underlying motivations are usually vague and shallow, not supported by facts and specifics. For example, an individual with histrionic personality disorder may claim that a certain person is charming, but they are unable to provide concrete examples of qualities that justify this opinion. Individuals with this disorder are characterized by a dramatic, theatrical style and exaggerated expression of emotions.

Another characteristic that stands out in a histrionic person is the dramatic way in which they tend to present themselves. They have a tendency to dramatize any negative aspect of their lives in order to attract attention and empathy from those around them. Any negative event that occurs is presented in a catastrophic form, exaggerating its effects in a theatrical manner. (For example, a histrionic individual who has had to wait longer in a queue may perceive this as something terrible and incomprehensible, explaining how horrible it was for them to wait "so long").

In addition to the exaggerated drama of these personalities, we can identify a tendency to exaggerate the truth (in the context of events with positive connotations), a tendency they practice in order to make themselves more likeable, to draw attention to their "achievements" and to capture the audience's attention. For example, a histrionic person may exaggerate the details of an event, such as "the music was amazing, I have no words to describe it," or "the people were wonderful, everyone was so beautiful and friendly," or "the place was magical, I don't know how to put it into words."

We can thus observe a tendency to position themselves on a continuum between negative and positive, maintaining theatrical behavior, either being extremely dramatic or extremely enthusiastic and exuberant, struggling to find a way to balance their reactions.

Although these behaviors can easily be mistaken for a habit of lying, histrionic individuals do not have a conscious tendency to lie, as is the case with antisocial or narcissistic individuals. Histrionic individuals exaggerate certain details of their experiences, sometimes bordering on lying, but the purpose for doing so is to be liked, to gain the sympathy of those around them, and to receive attention and validation.

On the other hand, narcissistic and antisocial individuals lie with the purpose of obtaining personal benefits, consciously manipulating the people around them. A histrionic person may also display a tendency to manipulate others, but for them, manipulation is of an emotional nature, using their emotions and reactions to convince others of the seriousness or success of their experiences.

The best way to communicate with someone who has Histrionic Personality Traits is by following the following recommendations:


  1. Show genuine interest and listen actively to what the histrionic person is saying. This will make them feel validated and important.

  2. Provide positive feedback and compliments when appropriate. Histrionic individuals thrive on attention and praise, so acknowledging their accomplishments or positive qualities will help build rapport.

  3. Maintain a calm and composed demeanor, even if they become overly dramatic or emotional. Responding calmly can help diffuse any potential conflicts and maintain a productive conversation.

  4. Ask open-ended questions to encourage them to elaborate and provide more specific details. This can help steer the conversation away from superficiality and encourage a deeper level of engagement.

  5. Provide encouragement and support for their creative endeavors or aspirations. Histrionic individuals often have a flair for the dramatic arts, so expressing interest in their creative pursuits can foster a positive connection.


  1. Get drawn into their over-dramatization or exaggerated storytelling. While it's important to validate their emotions, it's essential to maintain a balanced perspective and not get caught up in potential exaggerations.

  2. Allow yourself to be manipulated emotionally. Be aware of their tendency to use their emotions and reactions to sway others. Stay grounded and objective in your responses.

  3. Dismiss their emotions or experiences as trivial. Remember that histrionic individuals have a genuine need for validation and attention. Acknowledge their feelings, even if they seem exaggerated from your perspective.

  4. Interrupt or dominate the conversation. Give them space to express themselves and avoid monopolizing the discussion. Engage in active listening and make them feel heard.

  5. Ignore their need for positive reinforcement. While it's essential to stay genuine in your feedback, providing occasional compliments and positive reinforcement can help establish a healthy communication dynamic.

In conclusion, communicating with a histrionic personality requires understanding, patience, and empathy. These individuals have a unique communication style that seeks attention and validation. While their narratives may lack depth and their emotions may be exaggerated, it is important to approach them with respect and genuine interest.

By actively listening, providing positive feedback, and asking open-ended questions, you can encourage histrionic individuals to share their thoughts and experiences on a deeper level. However, it is crucial to maintain boundaries and not be swayed by their emotional manipulation.

Acknowledging their emotions, offering support for their creative endeavors, and avoiding dismissive behavior will foster a positive communication environment. Balancing validation and objectivity, as well as encouraging specific examples and honest expression, can help deepen the conversation.

Remember, histrionic individuals are seeking attention and validation, but they also have genuine emotions and experiences. By practicing active listening, empathy, and setting boundaries, you can establish effective and meaningful communication with a histrionic personality.


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